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Worst trip ever, April 1-6, Edibles and Green Door

Discussion in 'Vegas Trip Reports' started by IWannaBeInVegas, May 5, 2018.

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  1. TRN

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    Oh was there a trip report in here? :)
     
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  2. WelshBlonde

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    I am glad. Well done, I think this will help you in the long run. She will try to contact you but remember if you want to move on, and meet a nice normal girl, then tough it out. It will get easier. Maybe join a dating site in the future so you get so see just what your missing and to help with your confidence.

    Going in October myself so maybe will catch you about!! Have fun :)
     
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  3. BlueBellThunder

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    When I was first reading this TR I thought this was a couple in their early 20’s. The OP needs some serious counseling. With that being said, you’re not totally innocent, considering you thought your best friend was trying to get your girl into bed. You say your in your almost 40, but emotionally you seem like your in your teens. Please take the advice of others and seek counseling. Even if you you can’t afford it and have to cancel your planned October trip, it’s money well spent. You can’t put a price on happiness. As far a M goes, if you have to deal with her at work, keep it at a professional level. That’s the first mistake you made, never date a coworker. If it doesn’t work out you still have to see them. I know you’re here looking for advice, and I hope you follow through on all the advice given here. I know it can be tough being single, but that’s probably best for you right now. You need to work on your issues, if not the next person you start dating, you'll have similar issues with.

    I’m sorry if this sounds harsh, but I don’t want to sugarcoat your situation.

    Good luck.
     
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  4. Geogran

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    As a fellow VMB member who cares about everyone on this board - please consider getting professional guidance/counseling. You have raised lots of issues and concerns in your October and present posts, and your situation doesn't seem to have improved. Reach out for the help you need to get you to a better state of mind. The healing process and moving on with your life won't begin until you identify and accept why you continue a toxic relationship whether she's a GF or a friend - despite your protestations, and as an observer from all you have written, it sounds like you don't really want to end it and find excuses to continue. A professional can help you sort it out. Otherwise you will be right back in the same situation in short order.

    Wishing you the best in the future, @IWannaBeInVegas .
     
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  5. lax35er

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    . You are brave for posting REAL sh*t in your trip report and what has followed...REAL life is not all flowers and chocolates. Most people don't share "real" most people try to make their life seem perfect....I would be your friend if I met you. Love is difficult because it can cloud your judgement..I hope you can find a happy outcome with your lady...I'll be following....
     
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  6. fudgewapner

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    I don't think you'd have this advice "I hope you can find a happy outcome with your lady" if you read his other thread about his life! The only happy outcome is never speaking to her again, and never actually laying eyes on her again!
     
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    wow.. so much to say about this one!

    First off, i think everyone should be free to spend their time as they want, either in Vegas or wherever. And also I recognize that some people face different challenges in life, both physical, psychologically, economically and more.. I can't comment on your relationship with your ex, but as many have said, moving on is the best thing. You will be a better, happier person for it. It just wont feel that way at first. So my comments are my own opinion and they are my offer of help for other trips (Vegas or not).. not a lecture on how to live your life. Different strokes for different folks.

    Dont worry too much about it being a "bad" Trip. Like others have said, a bad day on vacation is better than a good day at work! Plus realize you are fortunate to have money to make these trips and a have a decent bankroll!! Things might not have gone perfectly, but when I was your age I was lucky to even get there. And once there I didnt have any money! I relied on coupons and whatever freebies the Casino.

    Planning for a Vegas trip (or any vacation destination) is crucial! That includes who you do or don't go with. Plan for a solo trip, a "guys" trip, a "couples" trip, etc, etc.. but know that in advance. Dont bring people that wont enjoy it, appreciate it or care to adventure out with you. "Bang buddies" or drug buddies from home might not be the best person to spend a weekend with. Or maybe they will?:wink2: Ask yourself these questions before proposing the trip.
    Also, set guidelines for the trip early.. Such as, "im going to Vegas so I can hit the craps tables hard" or "i really just want to hit the pool all day and party at night", etc, etc. Get everyone on the same page. And find out who wants to do what, so you can plan for it. Know that with a bigger group, you wont get to do everything you want. Be sure to plan for people changing their minds or not feeling well too. Being flexible is key as well. If someone wants to sleep in, say okay, i'll be at the pool or the buffet, meet me when you are ready.

    Another key to a successful trip is to not over do it! No need to see EVERYTHING in Vegas on one trip. Believe me, in my 20's I tried and it was exhausting. I didn't really get to DO much. I just saw a lot of things and was wiped out at the end of the day. Just say to your group.. okay, we are going to stay in the south end of the strip this time, or downtown, or wherever on this trip. If you see different/new things that interest you, be flexible to ditch your plans but also try to stick to it! These days, I hit the pool during the day and gamble at night, and keep myself downtown. YMMV.

    I'm going to sound like a stick in the mud, but going to a place you've never been (or only a few times) and having your first drink/drug is probably not the best idea. Experiment with drugs and alcohol at home first; get to know your limitations. Sure, Vegas is a place of excess and we've all gotten loaded there. But if you have no idea how your body reacts to even the smallest amounts, you are in for probably for some bad results. You could get hurt, robbed, arrested, attacked, etc.. A police record could haunt you for many years to come. Not to mention if you decide to drive when on these substances, you could kill someone or yourself. You dont want that on you for the rest of your life. Stick in a specific area and take a taxi/lyft if you really need to go anywhere.

    Lastly, dont make a trip to try to repair/fix a relationship. This is my own opinion of course, but vacations tend to magnify any problems you have. If you are a happy couple, then chances are your trip will go well. If you are a couple that fights all the time, well the fights will get worse on a vacation together. See if you can work things out at home first and again, plan to travel with some buddies instead if you really need to get to Vegas. That might actually clear your head and give you some prespective.

    Anyway, best of luck.. Hope you can figure things out and have a successful trip next time. As others have mentioned, if you need to talk to a counselor about your problems, theres many around. If you are a student, its likely your campus has a counselor you can talk to for free.
     
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    Now that is a quote I am gonna use. I had never heard that "crack in the sidewalk" thing. Well said.
     
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    One game/seat per customer! Trust me, I have had friends that were big enough degenerates to try and play two tables at a time! Plus it can hold up the game for others.
     
  10. IWannaBeInVegas

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    To be clear, A was staying in a different hotel regardless. He and I talk and are even talking the possibility of another trip together, obviously without M. He came clean the other day that had he had the chance, due to his altered state of mine, he would have tried to sleep with her, sober he would not.


    We have zero expectations of anything, not even friendship at this point. We have cut all ties other than seeing one another at work and starting next week, we will be on totally different shifts and other than in passing, when one is coming in and the other is leaving, we wont see one another then either.

    The dealers are magical, they can pull cards from nowhere.


    We have cut ties this week. Some stuff happened and she said some words that just put me in "Awww" and I said F-it, the rose colored glasses are removed. She seen a side of me she has not seen since before we got together the first time, the guy that is confident, cocky and wont take any SH it from anyone, she did not like that I "came back" to who I was before her. It was like a switch was turned on and I said enough is enough, not gonna let you treat me the way you are or talk to me the way you are.

     
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  11. ripper

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    Uhhh, you are now thinking of going on a trip with your " buddy " that said he would sleep with your GF giving the chance. Oh but its ok because he is drunk. That is not a friend. Maybe you need a fresh start somewhere and find better friends.
     
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    I agree totally. We are all different but have a love in common. I also agree the worst day in Vegas is better than my best day at work.

    Me too actually, but I have not had one in two weeks, working on cutting that out of my life along with all of the stress and drama. I even started working out again, and walking endless number of miles just to stay busy.

    I disagree. Everyone has live experiences and sharing those experiences could and does help others.

    It has been a sad set of circumstances. Fortunately in the fall when I had the near suicide attempt I did seek help, still see a professional, so its not all lost. I see things differently now than I did in the fall and have totally changed my mindset. Sure, I love the girl but I also refuse to let her to what she has done. When she left to go back to the hold BF, that was all I needed from her to help the decision to cut ties with her.


    I am in treatment for depression and I do see a professional. No secret there. Doc is on top of it.

    Only used the "pot" one time ever in my life and that was this trip in Vegas, never before and I only had the one. Drinking, well, we all do that in Vegas, well most of us. As I wrote in another reply, I am basically cutting that out of my life too, have not had a drink in 2 weeks, which does not sound like much but I was doing it 3-4 times a week so I see it as an improvement.

    It wont be the same as going with some buddies or alone but dont let my trip scare you. Even though I classify it as the worst trip ever and she and I had issues there, it still was nice having her there.

    We do see one another at work but starting monday we will be on different shifts so we will only see one another in passing. I actually am working a lot more than I did, the trip will be my reward for making more money.

    Thanks.

    I was not playing the one game any longer, my money was sitting there with M and I was the only one trying to play that BJ table. I know my local casino allows it and no other casino had an issue when in Vegas when I tried.

    For me it was not so bad, for her, it was not so great.
     
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    She already has tried to contact me, She used my google voice number because she is blocked on my iPhone, I did not respond, thats been about 21 hours ago now. Im on a dating site, have been for years, never really had luck but I also dont mind being single. I enjoy not having to worry about anyone and being able to do what I want when I want how I want without regard to if someone will not like it. I hope I can make the Oct trip, I need to start looking at rooms and airfare to see if it will be feasible, if not maybe Nov or Dec.

    As I have said, I do see a professional and am going through treatment for depression. I have also learned not to dip my pen in company ink, that has been one of the biggest mistakes in my life.

    Thanks for the comments. I do see a professional. Its hard giving her up as a friend but she has shown her truest colors in the past week or so and as they say, a leopard can shed its spots but it is still a leopard.

    There is no happy ending for her and I, just an ending but I do appreciate the comments.

    Very well thought out and written, thank you.

    I was only trying to play one table. I just had not picked my money up, M was "holding" it for me because she was afraid I would spend more than I should and she may have been right.

    In all fairness to A I know he does not even like M, he almost cut out going on the trip all together because of her. We all make poor decisions when we are under the influence, yeah it put a strain on us but we also are grown men who are trying to work it out. He has been my best friend through all of the issues I had with M and he literally saved my life so even with this being strained over what happened, I do think its a friendship worth saving.
     
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    Based on the pictures and your report overall it seems like a decent trip.
    Next time just set the ground rules.
    You wanna sleep go ahead, I will continue gambling.
     
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    Next trip will be simple because as of now I am planning it to be solo and only five days.
     
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    The "altered state" excuse doesn't cut it for me - it's not as if he was in a blackout state - he apparently remembers what he said. If that is the case, then I would remove "A" from of your life as well. That is not someone I would call a friend, and certainly not the kind of friend you need in your life. As I said earlier, friendship is built on trust, and he is not someone you could ever completely trust. You are dealing with enough on your plate right now, but it sounds as if you are doing really well with getting past all of these things. The one thing that has to be the most important in your life is to make yourself a priority, and forget about all of these dysfunctional people. If anyone does not enhance your life in every way, then they should not be in it. If you surround yourself with great, positive people who lift you up, then that is what you will attract. You deserve the best, don't ever settle for anything less!
     
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