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Who pays for dinner?

Discussion in 'Misc. Vegas Chat' started by Miller12pack, Mar 25, 2017.

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  1. Miller12pack

    Miller12pack High-Roller

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    My sister and brother-in-law have lived in Vegas for the last 25 years. Every time I go out there and we go out to eat, I pay. Usually they will say they want to try a new place. About 75-100. If their kids come, it can run 150-200. I am a burger and fries girl, so I don't usually pay that much for a meal. If they take me out to eat, we go to Santa Fe on there comps and I leave the tip. This is basically a drunken rant, and nothing will change, but do other people do this?
     
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  2. Cheetos

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    I feel it would be nice to pay only once, and only if you can afford. Any more is up to you!
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  3. Rush

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    Stop paying.
     
  4. Electroguy563

    Electroguy563 Over-Fried Gambler

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    Yes. I believe so, but only because they allow it to happen. It seems your sister and her husband has accepted this to be the norm, and it will be up to you to put a stop to it or to just let it go to keep peace within the family.

    I know because I'm in a similar situation like you. I can handle it financially but others might feel the strain of it. The hard part is deciding if making an issue of it will make things worse.

    Good luck, I hope things work out.
     
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  5. abraxis

    abraxis Low-Roller

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    S/he who chooses the venue should pick up the tab
     
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  6. FullBoat

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    Or at least split the check. You shouldn't be paying for someone elses kids.
     
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  7. Richard Alpert

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    Try asking the server to split the bill when he/she takes your order. See what happens...

    or

    Get one of those waiter check pads and whip it out the next time you dine with them.
    When the server brings you your bill, list the items the others ate on the check pad, tear it off, and hand it to your BIL.
    If I shared the appetizer I would not include their portion of that. At least not the first time.
    Maybe just a list of their entrees and beverages to hand them.

    That way they have a visual reminder to eventually reimburse you or perhaps they'll at least get the message!

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    My feeling would be if you are not staying at their home, I see no reason for you to pick up the check. I would suggest the separate check option.

    We went to Dallas for a NFL game and stayed with my wife's sister. In that case we did buy all the meals, but it was just the 3 of us each meal and we were staying at her home for 4 nights.
     
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  9. mdee

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    I was thinking maybe she was staying at their house. But the dining arrangement does sound a bit lopsided.
     
  10. merlin

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    Why dont you pay at the cheap place(santa fe), and let them pay at the expensive one? Another option is not telling them you're going to vegas at all.
     
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  11. tex55

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    Separate checks. They'll get the message.
     
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  12. Gaggles

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    People can only take advantage of you if you let them. No condition exists on the planet where I would allow that to happen even if I had the means to do it when it comes to paying for the meal. It is especially grating that they think they can add on some kids and you will cover that to. Separate bills next time!
     
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  13. queuetee

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    Unless you are staying with them, there is no reason for you to pay that kind of money--and including kids.

    You didn't make that clear.

    If you do stay with them for free for a few days, then $100+ is not a lot to pay for a dinner to thank them for the hospitality and free room
     
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  14. Miller12pack

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    I don't stay with them. If I did, I would definitely take them out a few times. I think I have been doing this so long that I have a problem changing it now. The- don't make waves-dilemma.
     
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    If you aren't staying with them, imo you are visiting them, they should be treating you.
     
  16. Joe

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    Well then I think it's time to make waves and request separate checks. Once you do, I would be very curious the next trip where they suggest dining.
     
  17. bubbakitty

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    Explain your schedule; several vmb meet-ups and gaming....a new "mystery" date but still time to dine...meet me at the ......at ....p.m. And let me treat. The rest is up to you.
     
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    I assume they are the ones that suggest you go out, when they do look them in the eye and cheerfully ask "are you treating"?
     
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  19. 93 Octane

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    I'm sure this is a stressful event for you,,,, enough is enough they are taking advantage of you especially paying for the rugrats that would piss me off.. time to rock the boat
     
  20. TableToddyy

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    If they want to try a new place. They should pay.

    Here's what to do. Eat Before you go to your sisters. And tell'em you just ate sorry. But you gotta beer?
     
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