The question was what happened to civility/society? What happened is everyone tries to control other people, despite the fact everyone knows you cant. So they beat their heads against the wall and then are unhappy. You cant control your friends anymore than the governor could control his state, and almost everyone who's on the other end will resist and go the other way. Live your life the way you want without justification or apology, allow others to do the same, that's my take.