Friends "tipping" you for staying in your comped room?

A lot of times I've gotten or shared a comped room because of my brother's casino action play level.

At minimum, I take him out to dinner a couple of times--that's when he's not getting his meals comped too. I always pay for the rental car we travel about town in. He likes to indulge in the booze. I do as well, but to a far lesser degree, I never have more than a couple per night. So I also become the designated driver.

And even though I feel those expenditures cover my end of the deal, I tell him thank you about 6000 times.

I am amazed at the people who don't have the common sense to say thank you, when someone does something nice for you.

We have nieces and nephews like that. We give them gifts, and many times they don't acknowledge the gesture. But in that case, it's the poor parenting to blame. They don't teach their kids properly. My wife says we shouldn't give them anything, if they don't say thank you. But I'm not yet ready to stoop that low.

 

Ahhh, my most recent one of these fine examples.....my friend asks me if I can help set up his bachelor party for 10. I got a comped suite at PH and a cabana with bottle service. At the end, he asked me to pay my share for the additional rooms to house the guests.

 

They should at least offer something. I know I would if somebody was giving me a free room. Of course, I was also told when I was growing up to not give something for the purpose of getting something in return. I should give things out of the goodness of my heart and if the people can give me something in return, that's fine. If not, that's fine too.

 

Who invited these friends? You? If so then that's the "price you paid" for not wanting to be alone. You have to remember the mentality here...
You got it for free! That's the way they see it. Never mind the fact that you earned those comps on your own! Personally I wouldn't share
my room with a bunch of people no way! I enjoy my privacy too much. I'd say either go solo next time or find some new friends with money and class!

 

I have been hosted on somebody's comps and I paid for a meal, and brought a thank you gift. Comps aren't free. Good friends are precious. Generosity is a blessing. I'm cheap too but taking advantage of somebody is wrong.

 

Sounds more like employees than friends...

 

No, not like employees at all, because employees would just be expected to drop off the goods, get paid $20 and then leave, like a bellboy.

My friends understand the game planning that is required to host an elaborate Vegas party,
and that things go much faster and smoother if they pitched in to help.
Otherwise, I would be the one having to schlep out to get the drinks, then the food, etc.
This would take hours if I had to do this all by myself.
Because they are my friends, they want to help me out,
and since they don't have much disposable income to help with the bills, they help out by running these errands.
These guys can't afford nice steak dinners or booze or fancy suites on their own,
so they really appreciate the opportunity to party with me when they can.

Look at it a couple of different ways:
1) If they had PAID for the Dom and sushi, and brought it to the party, would you have called them employees?
Probably not. But since they couldn't afford to pay, I did.

2) Let's say I had a potluck party, where I provided the awesome suite.
Wouldn't I expect my guests to contribute some drinks or a food dish if they wanted to attend?
In this case, my friends couldn't afford to bring drinks or a food dish,
so I offered to pay for the drinks and food dish that they brought.

You advised mrem3200 in your reply above to "find some new friends with money and class".
I don't require that my friends have "money and class" to be my friends:
I am not that snobby.

 

I can get a good deal on the room, just pick up a meal while we are out there.
or
I got the dinner, just pick up the tip.
or
I can get a real good deal on the tickets, you can pick up the drinks.

I rarely say I can get a FREE room or FREE meal or FREE tickets. After all, I probably paid a $1,000 for that "free" hotel room.

 

i only really take my family with my comped rooms -- because when i get a $200 charge for some drunk ass raiding the minibar I know family will pay up -- friends prolly not.

As for family, they never really pay anything but they try. I personally just ask them to play on my card while there if they are decent players. They are OK with that, it keeps the free rooms coming for me and I use the FP.

 

Man, some people are just pieces of s-h-i-t. A few years back, I got 4 of us a comped room at Mandalay (ugh, the younger years of sharing a room), and I also got 2 free buffets. Well, one of the guys never thanked me for the room, then when it came time to go to the buffet, he assumed we would all split the cost of the 2 buffets that were not free. I went off about it and gave the free buffet to one of my other friends that I owed for another meal anyways and left the other 2 guys to figure it out for themselves. I was so annoyed

 

I will most likely take family if it's my annual trip and CET is covering air fare for the 2 of us.

If it's just one of my regular Vegas trips and I invite a friend along, I don't mind paying for room(s), food and beverage and limo from my comps. But, I do explain that it isn't really "free". I have a level of play that gives me those comps. My tips are never comped and would normally be cash out of my pocket. If a friend is basically only paying for their air fare, they are more then happy to just pick up the cost of tips. This scenario works out well for both of us. I've had friends buy me gifts as well. This is very nice and appreciated, but in my mind....not necessary. I've also had friends but a dinner out at a restaurant off property where I wouldn't be comped.

Not all my friends have the same disposable income as me or the same gambling interest. I'm happy to invite a friend once in a while and to pick up most of the charges.

As others have posted...it is always surprising when someone asks me go get them a free room....when I'm not even going to be in Vegas.
I have contacted my host when a good friend is going to Vegas(not with me) and I offered to help them with hotel cost. My host will usually give them a very discounted rate to what they could get on their own. My friends are thrilled and there is a lot of good will and loyalty generated by my host.

 

How do your friends act out of Vegas? Do they do you a lot of favours?

Either way, with friends I'd presume I was gifting them something unless I came to an arrangement with them. Some people are nice enough to offer, most don't look a gift horse in the mouth.

 

it sucks to have friends do this... im lucky enough to weed out some of them.

another peeve is when you are winning they expect another free meal/drinks

fk

 

Nyeh, if I'm winning big I typically share the wealth a bit.

 

My sympathy for you depends on how many times these friends were allowed to take advantage of you...you know "Screw me once, shame on you, screw me twice, shame on me.

 

This is an interesting thread.

I have 3 type of friends:

1. Rich and cheap.
2. Broke and cheap.
3. Rich and big spenders

My last trip at Venetian. My friend who won 30k on a slot machine is the cheapest bastard. His motto is it's free, charge it to the room. He charged a bunch of shit to my room saying you'll get it comped; he didn't even offer to pay for it. He didn't spend a penny on food or room. I remember he was like give me $5 to tip the CW, I only have 100's. Seriously? Borrow me money. Seriously? His whole family is like that tho. I ended up buying 5 of us dinner at the CUT. My rich friend offered to throw down, but I told him my treat. I didn't even get a thank you for the dinner from the cheap bastard.

I wouldn't stop being friends with my cheap friends since they are cheap.

Nothing is free in Vegas. Everything comped comes with a cost.

 

Why did you buy dinner for the gang? I am sorry but remind these
folks that you're not responsible for their upkeep. A couple of nights
of hunger might bounce some money out of their pockets. Also make
sure the hotel knows that if you're not charging the merchandise then
it's not charged. You're putting these folks up for the night and that's how
they treat you? When you're going and they're not invited let them know
why.

 

How can someone take advantage of you if you don't let them unless you do let them.

 

I haven't read all the replies, but my take on these situations (Vegas or otherwise) is that I don't expect anything other than a simple Thank You. If they want to pick up a dinner or something, I'll let them and thank them for the gesture. However, I also think it's pretty lame when people do someone a favor, or give them something, EXPECTING something like kind in return. Not accusing the OP, but if I invite a buddy out and give him a comped room, I would hope that he gives me a "Thanks man I really appreciate that". However, I'm not going to expect him to give me anything in return, and then get bent out of shape when he doesn't.

You should give people things because you want to give them something, not because you want to get something back from them somewhere down the line. So as long as they give me a verbal Thank you, I have no hard feelings. If they want to do something above and beyond that, it's appreciated, but not required. It's tacky to expect something in return for your own generosity. That's not being generous, that's bartering.

 

I hear this same stuff when people talk about grandkids not knowing how to say thanks for presents. I feel the same way--negative- about your post. You are not "expecting" anything in return but a normal human reaction. If you give all the time and the other person has no desire or need to return the favor but takes all the time, then somebody is the sap for continuing the
relationship on those terms.

Nobody can love giving all the time.
If you hold the door for somebody and he sails through without a thank you and then lets the next door fly in your face, you cannot think "I held it for him because I wanted to., I didn't expect the favor to be returned."