My brother and sister-in-law live about 75 miles away. Her company is going thru a restructuring (he is retired) and she has to move about 500 miles to keep her job. They like the house they have now, and want to move back to it when she retires in about 5 years. They have asked me to move out of my apartment and house sit for them until she retires and then I would move back out and find my own place. I would live there rent free, and just pick up the cost of the utilities (they would hire a yard service for the lawn work). They would occasionally come back for Holidays and to visit her family. I would save money by house sitting, but honestly that is not a huge consideration. My biggest concern is that I would be giving up my independence. Even though I would be the sole resident for about 95% of the time, it still wouldn't be my place. Also, my sister in law is a very fussy housekeeper, while I will never earn the housekeeper of the year award (for example, I think that the back of the couch makes a perfectly good coat rack)! I'm afraid that when she did come back for a visit, she would blow her stack! I want to be a good supportive brother, but I can see where this arrangement could put stress on both their and and my brothers and I's relationships. I know that the decision is mine, but I am interested in others viewpoints.