Bracing for a season of nut punches...

[LolaDoggie]

I thought I'd share just because this group is (still) good at being supportive. My husband and I are gearing up for a season of pain. Not sure how else to say it. And there's not much that can be done than putting on a cup, roll around a bit, then get back up and move on.

My husband is adopted and has a relationship with his birth families. His half bio sister (same age as me, 44) on his bio father's side has a rare cancer and it's not looking good for her now. His bio father is having serious heart troubles, also not looking good. His adoptive mother has a less common type of lung cancer which doesn't sound that bad right now but we're waiting for more news. The thing that worries me about my mother in law is that the old battleaxe is scared. She's a fearless broad, so her not only being scared but showing it concerns me.

All we can do at this point is just take it a day at a time. We have cancelled the Gulf Coast trip we had planned for November.

 

[Its Only Money]

Good luck. Very cool that he now has a relationship with his birth family, remember the good times when it gets tough. I hope there isn't too much suffering.

 

[Suekel]

I'm very sorry to hear of so much hardship in his family, it's particularly tough as the holidays approach. Sending good thoughts for all of you to get through whatever may come with as much peace as possible.

 

[Sonya]

You have my sympathies. These life challenges are really hard, but sounds like you've got the right attitude about it. Hang in there!

 

[LolaDoggie]

Thanks. I really appreciate the support.

 

[Richard Alpert]

So sorry to hear the news, Loladoggie. Sending positive vibes, etc. your family's direction!

RICHARD

 

[Jerseyguy]

My best wishes also. I guess one thing I've learned living in a large adult community 14 years is that many friends and neighbors have gotten very ill and some have come back and some didnt. You cant really change things,you just hope for the best. You have the right idea,one day at a time,and dont give up hope,I've seen so many people here at deaths door,paralyzed and all kinds of awful things and recover.

 

[Geogran]

@LolaDoggie - I'm so sorry to hear of all the health challenges in your family; stay strong for each other, and together you and your husband will make it through.

I am reminded by a now often repeated 'rainbow in the clouds' metaphor which Dr Maya Angelou always said she drew strength from. Through a word or gesture we can all be that rainbow in a time of need.

"Try to be a rainbow in someone else's cloud"
- Maya Angelou

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