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We're gonna try doing this with another couple again...

Discussion in 'Misc. Vegas Chat' started by ref59405, May 22, 2016.

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  1. ref59405

    ref59405 Low-Roller

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    Okay, maybe that wasn't the best subject line to use. :rolleyes2:

    My wife and I are headed back to Las Vegas for what could be our 20th trip. We are going with another couple and I am a little nervous because this will be the third time we are doing this and the first two times were not very successful.

    The first time we went to Vegas with another couple didn't go very well because in between booking the trip and boarding the plane they broke up. There was some talk of them not going, but the trip price was non-refundable. She had a wonderful attitude and said that they were still friends and she didn't think there would be any problem with the two of them sharing a room for the weekend. She even said if it turned out to be a last fling for the two of them as a couple she was ok with that and they would return from the trip on good terms and go their own separate ways. She couldn't have been any better.

    He couldn't have been any worse. :bang:

    He made arrangements online to meet other women and couples and he seemed to go out of his way to let her know that they were no longer together and that he didn't care if she didn't like what he did. He was awful and after 24 hours of his behavior my wife and I avoided him for the rest of the trip. The female part of this couple had some family members come along on the trip so she spent most of the time with them, so our first attempt at a couples trip was mostly spent with just me and the wife, and believe me, we were just fine with that as we avoided the drama and his poor behavior.

    A few years later we tried again and this time the other couple was just fine and the four of us got along great. The problem was our schedules. My wife and I tend to leave the room somewhere around 9am and call in a night around 2am. This couple was more of the leave the room at 5pm and stay out until 7am the next day kind of folks. While we would meet them for a meal, dinner for us and breakfast for them, we were never on the same page because we had been going all day and by 1am we were getting tired and ready to call it a night, and by this time they were just getting started.

    I have hopes that this upcoming trip will be different and will be the fun type of couples trip I always imagined. It seems like Las Vegas should be so much fun with a few friends with you and I have my fingers crossed that this trip will be fun filled and drama free. Any advice on how to make this happen would be greatly appreciated.

    I will do a trip report when we get back and let you know how it turned out.
     
  2. vegasvic

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    Traveling with others can always pose some challenges. When I was married we went with other couples twice, it worked out ok. I've also gone with larger groups (14 next month). What I always do is set my itinerary and if others want to go with me great, otherwise they can do their own things. It usually ends up being a combination of doing things together and doing things apart. And that works out well. The worst thing is to try to plan a schedule for other people. I decide what shows I may want to see and throw it out there ("if you are interested in this show let me know before I buy tickets"). I always rent a car and do excursions around the area. Same thing, ("if you are interested in going here let me know").

    Some people I've traveled with do no research, nothing. They have no idea what their options may be, they don't care, they go with the flow. Others do research and pick out things they want to do. And that's great, there may be some things I've already done so they can do it on their own. Other things we'll do together. On some days some will want to relax and the pool, some won't. The bottom line is the best vacation with couples or groups end up being those that you spend some time together and some time apart.
     
  3. nostresshere

    nostresshere Mr. Anti Debit Card

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    And, this is why so many STRONGLY suggest to others to never share a room. Different people do different things. Accept that and most will work out. Also, another reason why a different hotel is okay.

    I agree withe the last line above :The bottom line is the best vacation with couples or groups end up being those that you spend some time together and some time apart.
     
  4. vegasvic

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    Agreed. I would never ever share a room.
     
  5. smerrian

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    Also to watch out for: When the other couple figure since you've been to LV so much that you will plan their trip and play social director for them. They haven't research anything about the city. They have no idea what type of entertainment outside of 'gambling' is offered. And, they expect you to spend your entire trip 'showing them around'.
    Plan your trip. Let them know what you'll be doing and if they want to join you. Recommend web sites that they can see for themselves what might interest them so that they can have ideas in their head should you be doing something that doesn't interest them or just spending some alone time.
     
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    I cant stand travelling with others and this is why.

    Hope it works out well for you this trip.
     
  7. nostresshere

    nostresshere Mr. Anti Debit Card

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    We travel with others often. We never share a room. I mightget them a comp room, but insure they know they can not charge to the room (usually).

    We set certain meals when we get together. I tell them they are on their own until xxx time. I give them the option of meeting for SOME/NOT ALL meals. I suggest shows to attend together if they want. If not, that is fine.

    If they think I am their social director, I always put MY desires first. Here is what I am doing later tonight. Here is what I am doing for breakfast. Here is what I am doing for....
     
  8. Suekel

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    I'm not crazy about going with other couples for many of the reasons already mentioned. We went with 2 other couples once and they were like gum on your shoe. An example, they wanted to go to the Pawn Stars place. We didn't want to. I told them very reasonably to go ahead and plan that and we'd amuse ourselves during that time. They ended up not going because we didn't want to, and kind of grumbled about it. We told them ahead of time to plan out some things they'd like to see or do, they said they were fine doing whatever we normally do. So we get there and before long they start asking if we are going to play VP and drink all day. Well, that's what we "usually do", and I don't hear anyone else suggesting anything so...... Yes.

    It wasn't an awful time but there were enough moments like that to make me not be in a big hurry to go with them, or anyone else, again soon.

    One exception has been when we've taken our nieces/nephews for their first time. Both times we've done that it's gone really well and we had lots of fun.
     
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    Our last trip was with my brother-in-law and sister-in-law and it was a disaster. I wanted to gamble, eat, see a show or two, drink, enjoy a cigar or two, etc...all they wanted to do was stay in the condo and drink beer 24/7. Couldn't get them to leave the room and they wanted to go to the grocery store and by food to cook in the condo. One day I put my foot down and said we're going out to diner (was our 25th anniversary) and my brother-in-law announces "that ain't gonna happen we're cooking here". I said a few unkind words to him and the rest of the trip we avoided each other and did our own thing.

    Hope yours goes better this time.
     
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    Las Vegas is the only place I don't want to go to with other people. Last time we went with a mutual friend, great guy, but tried to keep up with us gambling wise and he had a HORRIBLE streak of luck and ended up spending his entire bankroll the first night (well, almost all of his bankroll, he did get up in middle of the night and spent the rest on a newly made acquaintance at Bugsy's Bar). He was really pretty good about it and spent a lot of time sightseeing while we acted like degenerates but it still limited what we would usually do. It didn't ruin the trip but we probably won't do it again.
     
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    Oh god, that sounds awful! Our aforementioned friends wanted to buy beer and hang out in the room and drink, because "everything is so expensive in the casino". Told them to have fun, we'd be downstairs actually experiencing Vegas.
     
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    We don't travel with others. We do a big Island vacation in the winter and a big LV vacation in the spring or fall. All our friends know we are going and over the years, people have mentioned that they would love to go with us to one or the other. We have never taken anybody up on the offer so by now, nobody mentions it. The main reason, when we were both working long and crazy hours, the vacations were our time together with no interruptions.

    Now we are retired and have much more time together, we still take the big vacations but also some small ones....but still prefer not to bring company. We very often meet people with whom we may make a dinner reservation or spend time laughing and drinking at the pool, but otherwise it is our time.
     
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    When we lived in Vegas, some good friends came to visit and we put them up at our house in NW Vegas for 3 nights. They had never been to Vegas before, so we took them around to downtown, Mt Charleston, they had to go to the first Dupar's in Vegas because they saw it on Rachael Ray and a few other spots.

    Then I told them I had arranged a comp at Harrah's for them for two nights. Totally free for them, except for their food and gambling. I told them they must wander around the Strip, at night, see the volcano, fountains etc. but they really enjoy drinking and I wanted to be home before dark and not driving.

    So we hung around for a couple of hours each day on the Strip and then went our separate ways.

    Once we moved back and one night at dinner after a few cocktails, he let it slip that they didn't enjoy the Strip and thought they would stay at our house for the entire time and I would take them everywhere. Did I mention they really like to drink.:drunk:
     
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    If the expectations are not CLEAR up front, the chances of a bad trip increase.

    Simple stuff.

    By the way, we had family visit from up north for a whole week with their 7 year old while we lived in Orlando. They did not go to one park. Not a single one. Go figure.
     
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    I think you have to talk up how you "Vegas" to people and make sure they are interested before you even suggest going together. And you also have to feel out how they spend money because even if they like the same things because it's hard to go through a trip with people who are operating in a different budget headspace. It's one of the reason I prefer to go solo - I have things I am not willing to do and I suck at compromise.
     
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    A long time ago I started a thread titled "I wanna go to Vegas, but not with you". It garnered quite a few responses and the general consensus was how difficult it is when traveling to Vegas in groups due to the varied interests of each individual.

    Taking trips with other people will always involve compromise. However, it seems when it comes to Vegas, hardly anyone is willing to compromise, and would rather opt for a "to each their own" attitude with the occasional meet-ups for dinner, breakfast, shows, ect. and then it's off to do his/her/their thing.

    And if this can be accomplished without anyone being hurt, dissed, or offended, then I'm pretty sure it can work.
     
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    If you have never traveled with the other couple, then don't do it in Vegas and never share a room. You think you know someone but you never really know them unless you've lived or traveled together, and with vacation time being so precious, why would you risk it with an unknown?

    One of our Vegas trips was with my brother in law and sister in law and we had a great time. We both stayed in the same hotel, never went to breakfast together, but we would hook up at the lobby bar for a Bloody Mary and figure out the day. We go to AC with the in-laws and he is like my own brother.

    But reading some of these trip horror stories is like rubber-necking a fender bender on the interstate, I just gots to look.
     
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    I head to Vegas with friends from all over the UK, but we aren't 'together' per se.

    We meet up for meals sometimes, and go drinking other nights, but essentially we're there on our own schedules.

    Shared a room once, and now I just pay the extra to not have any worries.
     
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    It can work......we have even shared a condo with another couple and it was great.....though they are really old friends and are not at all reliant on us for entertainment, transportation, gambling advice, or short term loans :nono:

    What the hey.......my wife and I do differnt things a lot of the time when we are there.......I live in the Book, she plays Pai Gow for hours.......we always know where to find each other. Still no short term loans though :kiss:
     
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