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Not into Christmas this year... RANT.. sorry

Discussion in 'Non-Vegas Chat' started by sporty8705, Dec 20, 2014.

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  1. sporty8705

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    I think it has a lot to do with me being burned out , stressed and broke..
    The first two I can deal with, the latter is what makes me mad..
    My ex refuses to pay his child support, even with a court order and so this month, it was not paid..
    It has been getting paid later and later each month and this month, it was not paid at all..
    Things will be golden when my full time pay check comes in in about a week!

    Just needed a rant!
    Sorry
     
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    Sucks to here about him not paying cp, ESPECIALLY around the holidays...
    Also, you should be getting your check before 12/29? (I only say that, because that's when our checks come out.. )
     
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    Don't be sorry. Perfectly understandable. Hope things get better. And that fucker better pay up soon....if not turn his ass in.
     
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    If it helps sixteen years ago I lost a business, was almost a million dollars in debt and was borrowing from one credit card to pay another. Social Security records show my annual income for 1998 as $0. I had kids 8, 13 and 17 at home and was in a miserable marriage.

    I refused to be a victim.

    Today I am on a better financial footing, have two grandchildren and live with my miserable ex-wife because I'm stupid and my kids say I can't run her through the wood chipper!

    Bottom line: we all make mistakes in life and have to live with them but share responsibilities. Any asshole that won't pay financial support to children he should love and care for is in the same league as a child molester.

    The Courts are very slow sometimes to bring these turds to Justice but it does happen. Several years ago I was at the Mass Lottery office in Springfield to cash in a $2500 scratch ticket. A guy walks in with a $10,000 ticket - he was stoked! They took his ID, like they did mine. Once they ran it they found out he was behind on Child Support so they informed him he wasn't getting the money, the Court was, He started yelling, screaming. By this time I had been paid and left but hung out a while. In a few minutes I heard the sirens and yes, he was soon fighting with the cops. Justice!

    Keep your head high - you have the moral high ground - and keep your spirits as high as possible. I wish you the very best Christmas possible for you and your children!
     
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    Ditto from Scrooge himself,dont be sorry,I just hope things work out for the better. . I know it sounds corny ,but take it one day at a time and maybe some little thing will happen each day to lift you out of the funk for that day.

    Piggy,funny you should mention the lottery,the state here is finally cracking down on a long running scam where convenience store owners and their relatives from as far away as India will cash the winning ticket for you in exchange for a percentage so the state cant grab it. Somebody finally noticed how many of these people have won so many big jackpots.
     
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    Hang in there honey. One day, this guy is going to have to look his kid in the eye and explain why they didn't even try to provide for them. Just try to get through this Xmas. A low key Xmas never killed anybody.
     
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    I have full custody of my son, and his mom is a piece of shit ha... she is suppose to pay me and she is 2800 in arrears... the way I see it is this... NEVER count on child support regardless...Count it as a bonus... if you count it towards
    your income you are making a major mistake...

    Yes its very odd to hear a father having full custody of his son, my son only gets to see his mom every other weekend.... which is all she will ever get....
     
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    Well we have joint legal, I have full physical, he gets one weekend a month, and this month our son was sick on that weekend so he asked me to make it up, i never replied.. i offered this weekend to him, he had to go out of town... yea right.. but i guess thats what i need to do, not count on it and pay stuff regardless on my income and then if it comes, its a bonus. The lady with the county said if he misses a payment, it goes in arrears, with interest, and then they can start to try and take his license away!
    I somehow managed to get 2 credit cards, one from my bank, one from Kohls.. Kohls bought christmas presents, and my bank card is what paid the bills.. good news is that i can pay them off with my paycheck and my financial aid that will all come in within a few days of each other! and yes, we get paid the 26 I believe..

    Exactly a year ago yesterday he quit his job, so we got the child support reduced so he still has to pay. He was paying me 2x a month until he stopped. I turned that in to the state, so he now has to pay the state, and he reminds me that its my fault it hasnt been paid yet because I had to turn it in to the state so he cant just pay me.. except that he lies about paying it and blames the state.. so he is still unemployed, and they took his tax refund this year to make up for past balance that he owed me.. then he told me to just take his refund and give it back to him! haha no such luck! and he refuses to get a job because he has "standards".
     
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    Damn...sorry to hear of your continuing debacle with your ex. I can imagine it is difficult to be in the Christmas spirit with all that you are having to deal with. However, I hope you will be able to make the most of it with your children...drive them up to the mountains and play in the snow, rent a movie, or even playing some board games while drinking hot cocoa. May 2015 be a much better year for you!
     
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    oh and per the court order, he gets him Christmas day.. another reason why I am unhappy.. i wish he couldnt go because his dad didnt pay
     
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    In Massachusetts if you are on "assistance" your benefits are the equivalent of $54,000 a year and your EBT card can be replaced several times a month if you, ahem, "lose" it. The card can be used to withdraw cash from ATM's. These ATM's are regularly used in Hawaii, Puerto Rico, on cruise ships and yes dear friends inside casinos. But we are cold hearted if you try and crack down on this fraud.

    Funny thing is they do a great job going after child support losers and you can't register a car or renew your diver's license if you are behind on your excise taxes (based on a vehicle's value, paid to your town). I wonder why?

    Many of the independent convenience stores around here are run by folks from India. Very nice people working for very little profit. I bought a coffee in town yesterday and the guy was on a Skype back to his family in India. No money to bring them here he said. He sends all he can home. I heard several children in the background. He wasn't being dunned for child support I bet!

    Again best wishes Sporty! Merry Christmas!
     
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    I admire your openness about all this and have no way to truly understand the feelings you're experiencing... I just hope your child doesn't become a pawn in what seems like an awful lot of animosity between you and he. He deserves all the love both of you can muster.
     
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    Piggy's not making that up... it's true... i live near him and i see the same thing....

    But Merry Christmas to all and to all a goodnight(in Vegas)
     
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    My best friend had to raise 4 little kids on her own without a dime. Nice, regular, working, married folks who were active at church. They hit a rough patch when the youngest was a baby and my friend got diagnosed with cancer. He made his excuses and took off. Never paid a freaking dime and did his best to disrupt their lives. The only thing you can do is get through it, never give any indication to your kid that your ex is a sack of excrement. Believe me, the kid will figure it out on their own. Usually a guy like this finds a way to stop seeing the kid anyhow. There's not a thing you've said so far that doesn't sound familiar. The men and women who walk away from their responsibilities like this are following the same script, all have the same dance moves. Hell, my friend the guy took off to Utah under an assumed name with his 2nd wife who was dumb enough to have more kids with him. He can't come back to Canada and he's illegal in Utah but the in laws are hiding them. My friend got phone calls when his mother died because he blamed her for not being able to go to the funeral. Because you know, it's all her fault. That's just one story she's got about his guy. Just ride it out, it's all you can do.
     
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    my kiddo knows how his dad is without me saying a word.. and if it wasnt for his mom, he would stop seeing our son im sure.. its her only grandchild and shes not going to give him up!
     
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    thats how the system works...... it sucks, but he is scotch free until you go back to court....

    I know so much about child support stuff, I have thought about going back after I finish my masters and taking the LSAT, and going to law school...but at the age of 34 that isnt happening LOL
     
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    sporty, contact 1st District Supervisor Kevin Jeffries' office and ask about assistance services offered through DCSS.
     
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    Thanks Ken.. I do work full time, and I do have childcare help from CAPP, but I will look into it and call.. any ideas on what services are offered?!
     
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    This is what makes this board awesome! There is more to this board than just a bunch of degenerates.
     
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