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My husband does not care to gamble. ..much....

Discussion in 'Misc. Vegas Chat' started by BigBirdyz, Feb 28, 2014.

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  1. BigBirdyz

    BigBirdyz Tourist

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    We are first night here and barely even tapped the evening gambling budget that I have saved up for. He just does not get anything out of it. I on the other hand LOVE it! I feel like he even puts bad juju out when I try to include him and have fun. NO LUCK! Needles to say, I tucked his a $$ in bed and with much convincing, let him know I was at least going back down to gamble my share even if he didn't want to. OMG three more Days of this? He likes every other aspect of vegas and I feel Like the unusual woman who likes to gamble. ....
     
  2. tringlomane

    tringlomane STP Addicted Beer Snob

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    Have you never went to a casino with your husband in your life?

    This is something I would have tried to figure out before going to Vegas...

    At least I know what I am getting into with the "tight with the purse strings" g/f...lol Most trips, she's in bed early too for about 1/3rd of the days...lol
     
  3. suthrnoutlw

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    tuck him in to bed at night and hit the casino floor! :)
     
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    Give him a $100 in the morning then tell him "Enjoy your day and lets meet at place X for lunch. "

    At lunch tell each other about the day and say "Bye, lets met at place X for dinner." Tell each other about your day and discuss if you two will do something together at night or split up again.
     
  5. TomTWI

    TomTWI High-Roller

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    Give him all his gambling money in singles and have a strip club send a limo for him. End of problem.

    TomTWI
     
  6. Joe

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    Being degenerate gamblers we don't have this problem, but I think this is some very good advice.:thumbsup:
     
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  7. Jake&Avery

    Jake&Avery Planning my next vacation!

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    HA!! I feel your pain - my DH's hand starts to tremble after he's fed in a few 20s into the machines!!

    BUT, he knows I enjoy it, so he ususally just gambles slower - and he does enjoy the benefit of drinking while we sit there...:drunk:

    and he doesnt "normally" bitch about it unless Im on a winning streak and he's on a losing one...:rolleyes2:

    and we also dont go to Vegas, just to gamble - we see the sights and look at a few old cars, and visit the Dam which keeps it varied enough for him..and with the good dinners and NO kids, he does have a good time.

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    TIMSPEED !địt mẹ!

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    My wife likes to gamble...she just hates that I want to do it EVERY WEEKEND. lol
    I'm not allowed to bring the ATM cards with us anymore...I'm too degenerate.
     
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  9. airball1996

    airball1996 High-Roller

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    I have a similar situation with my wife. She's not much of a gambler, and I like to hit the blackjack tables or card rooms. However, I'm not much of a pool person, so we typically coordinate our schedules. While she's tanning (burning) at the pool, I hit the floor for a few hours. Then we meet up and have the rest of our evening together. Win/win.
     
  10. vegasvic

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    I'm surprised that the OP seems surprised. This is obviously their first time together in a casino but I would think he would have said something about hating gambling as they planned their trip. But there are many couples in Vegas where one is a gambler and one is not. Do the things you both like and then take time to gamble while he can do his own thing for awhile. Not a big deal IMHO.
     
  11. ken2v

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    Couples need to find their own equilibrium, as in what works great for another couple could be sound, but not workable for the first couple.

    I'm not a fan of coercion or edicts or even hard negotiation in a relationship. Maybe I'm a relationship pacifist.

    In our now nearly 20 years together, each of us has come to enjoy an activity (food, music, whatever) favored by the other, many times over. But I certainly might still enjoy X more than Terri and she still leans toward Y. I really can't think of anything that is a divide, an activity or place or what not where we've just never been able to easily settle into that balance. We're also both very capable in daily or at-home or vacation life of being able to go do our own thing and not feel like one of us is being slighted or self-centered. We buy/do want we want to buy/do without a UN-called negotiation session because each respects that it's one big joint pot and the other's not gonna do something stupid.

    Sorry about all the dime-store mumbo-jumbo pop-psych shiat.

    I guess for real-world experiences: Golf and chill might be two of our bigger morphs. Terri loves to play the former, but is happy when I go off and engage without her. I'm been able to quell some of my native restlessness and sit on a beach or in a spa for hours -- always was a steam/massage/shower/go type -- and I can now do far more than an hour in an art museum. On vacation, we'll do some of each together, and some of the sep. And I guess we were lucky, both enjoying gambling before we met and finding that while we might have different wants in games from time to time, we enjoy the same amount of time dedicated to it and the same budget expectations.

    Is could be me or it could be because this is a Vegas-focused community so it's more exposed, but it seems that Vegas/gambling divides more couples than other locales and pursuits … well, short of infidelity and other such stupidities.

    Back to the OP: Y'all just smile and be considerate, ask and give, and you'll be fine. And if Vegas isn't his thing, admit it and, well, there is NOTHING at all wrong with separate or friends getaways in a relationship; they're actually quite healthy.
     
  12. PokerFaceNJ

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    My wife and I have traveled to Las Vegas approximately 10 times together in 13 years. Before our very first trip, I described what she would be encountering...and she still wanted to give it a try. She never gambled, and never had an interest in it. I am a poker player and she knows that I like to spend quite a few hours at in the poker room. We certainly found that "equilibrium" that was needed to enjoy our trip. For us, I just gambled a little less or during the late evening hours to spend more time with her. Other times, she would go to the pool and wouldn't mind me taking a few hours for myself as well. We really did find that balance but certainly talked it over before leaving to Vegas. Often, my wife even went as far to get on my case to not worry about her and go play poker. We both just wanted to be sure the other was enjoying the trip...and we accomplished that goal.

    After a few trips, my wife did catch the gambling bug and now loves the slots. You never know...after so much exposure to the casino floors, one might end up jumping in and catching the "bug".
     
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    Gamblers come in all forms. I have great utmost respect for your husband. It takes great courage and willpower not to gamble.



     
  14. gmille58

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    My wife and I have started going back to Vegas once or twice a year. I have always loved table games, she used to just like slots. I will also play poker and can do so for hours if I am not "just losing" and she has no interest in that at all.

    We have our own 'allowance' for gambling when we go, and we used to just go our own ways and meet up from time to time as others have said. Now she likes blackjack and we will sit together and play some together, and then if she is bored with that she will go play slots and I will go play something else. Occasionally I will play some slots with her, but I get bored of that quickly.

    My advice would be to do as you have, show him around all of the things you enjoy about the casino. If he finds something he likes he may stay longer. If not, then on a bad trip you are only losing 1/2 of what other couples do!
     
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    I have read this forum for many many years and never posted before but this sounded alot like my wife and I. My wife loves slot machines and could probably play all day and night and wouldn't even realize that much time has passed. I don't dislike it but don't love like my wife does and get bored with a slot machine pretty quick - especially if it is not winning right away.

    We have been going to Vegas for 14 years now and going twice a year for 5 or 6 years. To enjoy the time while my wife plays slots I will do any of the following: Just watch her play and enjoy the free drinks, the two of us alternate hitting the spin button to keep us both involved, walk around the area and find other machines my wife might like, go find a live band in a lounge and listen for awhile, go to the sports book and watch whatever sport is playing, hang out outside and enjoy the Vegas weather, etc. My wife also knows I get impatient so she does not insist on gambling all the time. We both always have a great time and we keep going back for more. We went at the end of January and I wish I was going again today.
     
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    Iowatovegas, Congradulations on your first post! Your wife must be special to you for this thread to pull you out of lurker status.

    My fiancé and I enjoy a lot of the same things, but she dislikes my cigars as much as I dislike shopping. We compromise enough for the other to get their fix.

    We both gamble, but she likes slots and it's mostly tables for me.
     
  17. weluvvegas

    weluvvegas Vegas Slot Junkie

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    While planning our first Vegas trip together in 2001:

    Me: "Let's go to Vegas for our anniversary"
    DH: "Why, there's nothing to do but drink and gamble...and I don't do either"
    Me: "Trust me"

    13 years and 20+ trips later....... he's more of a degenerate than I am
     
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    Love that story!:thumbsup:
     
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    Me and my wife are damn near on the exact same page with gambling in terms of risk tolerance and games of choice. She's my favorite gambling buddy.

    :)
     
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    My husband was like yours until he learned to play video poker. We're fine sitting side by side or not. Either find him a game he enjoys or ditch him-let him do something else when you want to gamble.
     
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