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Let the Anxiety kick in...

Discussion in 'Non-Vegas Chat' started by Lhammer28, Aug 27, 2015.

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  1. Lhammer28

    Lhammer28 High-Roller

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    I have always had a fear of flying, so up until about 5 days out im so excited for Vegas, making all kinds of plans; then it just stops and I begin to freak out. And this time is a ALL TIME HIGH.
    We're leaving our son for the first time.
    I dont know what to do, im contemplating asking SW when we get to the airport if I can take the next flight so hubby and i are on 2 different flights.
    The logical part of me is trying so hard to calm me down, But i cant. I cant stop thinking what if??

    I hate this so much, then when i xalm down on that i think, what if something happens to him & im not there????

    I dont know, am i crazy?! any parents here go thru this?
     
  2. Brick

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    I know the feeling. Ladybrick and I took out first post-baby Vegas trip late last year and I started having weird thoughts the week before the flight. I almost changed to a different flight but my better half reassured me that the pilots on SW (and most airlines) are highly skilled and that I am safer at 35,000 feet than driving on a city road. That helped me calm down.

    In the past, before having our little one or proper wills, I used to write a handwritten, signed and dated note of my wishes just in case something happened. I also let a trusted family member know my general wishes from time to time.

    It's the parental instinct that makes us worry. It's not just flights. I get the feeling while sitting at my work desk sometimes and that's only 30 minutes from home.

    That being said, we've been on several trips since becoming parents and always take the same flights. Try not to worry too much. I hope you have an awesome and lucky trip. Plus a few drinks or winning rolls always seems to help.
     
  3. shemesh

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    I dont like flying much myself, but honestly you should check out this website http://flightaware.com/live/

    Look how many flights are in the air currently, thousands of thousands on thousands of routes, this is 24/7.

    Statistically speaking this is by far and large the safest transportation route.

    My advice to you, go to your local physician and ask for a few low dose (0.25mg) alprazolam (xanax) to calm your nerves specifically for flying, take 1 or 2 about 60 minutes before your flight. Also take one a few days in advance to see how you respond, I think you will find such a relaxation as these benzodiazepines will do it for you. This is very common.

    During the takeoff and flight flood your mind with all the wonderful things you are going to do in Vegas and all the great times you are going to have with your husband there, think about all the wonderful restaurants, all the wonderful casinos, the shows, the lights, dancing and having a blast, etc etc.

    Then when you come home you will even enjoy spending time with your son more with a great souvenir for him after a much needed relaxing vacation!!!!

    Take it easy, keep your head up , only think about the good things, im sure you guys are going to have a blast.

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  4. 6Mermaids

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    ^^^ benzos. benzos. benzos. they are a lifesaver for people who fear flying.
     
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    I don't like flying either. My husband used to jump out of planes and has no fear. I don't sit by a window and I don't look out the window when taking off or landing. Before take off I close my eyes and take deep breaths. -- Also a couple of Margaritas before take off helps too.

    During the flight I either listen to music or watch a movie on my kindle
     
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    Of course we all go thru that feeling. Now that you're a Mom you'll always worry and be concerned about the what if's! It doesn't matter what age of a child you have. As my child got older I wasn't less worried but learned how to deal with the anxiety of leaving her.

    I don't like flying either. A Draminine, couple of drinks and a Valium if I find one always help me. Our daughter was 3 when we first experienced Vegas. We were hooked after that and made an annual trip. I always made sure we left an updated Medical POA for my friend who took care our daughter while we were out of town.

    Our darling daughter has grown up and we're headed to LV on Dec. 26th - her 21st birthday.

    Enjoy your getaway to LV and Lady Luck be with you!
     
  8. joesmom

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    I understand your fears but think about this - how often are the two of you in the same car? You have to do what you feel you need to do but don't let fear be the driving force - use your intuition and thought process and HAVE FUN!! GOOD LUCK!!
     
  9. Lhammer28

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    It took a long time for me to drive my son around.
    We had the obvious dr. appts & home from the hospital; but i waited until springtime & he was 6 months. My Dr had me on some anxiety meds after baby; maybe that helped,maybe it didnt. Once we got a truck and the snow was gone, I felt much more comfortable.
    I see your point, what it probably is, I have 0 control in the airplane. At least when im driving, im in control.

    Thank you all so much for the support & i hope by me reading this post over and over when as its getting closer, it will help me stay a little calm.
     
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    OK, we don't have kids. But when my older brother, who did, would fly to the Netherlands, him and his wife did take separate flights when their kids were young.

    They flew back to see her family once a year. Me, I don't worry about but I do put our Will and Trust documents on my desk before we fly. No anxiety at all, just saving the search process one step if something would happen.
     
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    I am not a parent and maybe (?) you are being paranoid and irrational? That said: If it would make you feel better to take a different flight, then by all means, you should take a different flight. People can say anything to you, it will not change how you feel. If you want to switch out the terrible way you are feeling right now, to a feeling of relief that your child will still have one parent if anything goes wrong, then you should. You are SO scared right now. Anything to lessen that, is a good thing.
     
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    Believe me when I say I totally understand how you feel. I had panic disorder for years - became agoraphobic because of it. I had all those fears too. I fully support whatever you decide and that is why I say do what you need to do to get through it. It isn't a fun feeling at all. Hugs!
     
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    Laugh at me all you want and I know not everyone was raised a Catholic and had nuns for 8 years, but anytime I feel some anxiety, especially when I am flying, is to rattle off a few Hail Mary's.
     
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    It's been said before, but you have a MUCH higher risk of dying when driving to your local grocery store than you do taking a flight!
     
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    Parents taking separate flights is quite common actually. Dad with little Susy and Mom with Johnny happens a lot. If it makes you feel better, do it. We often take separate flights to destinations not for that reason but, because our schedules are so #@#$ed up. I find it kind of neat meeting the lovely at the lobby bar of xxxx hotel. Adds a little adventure to the start of the trip for some reason....
     
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    +1 on the Benzodiazepines. Ativan, Xanax, Valium,

    I never had a problem with anxiety until I had a panic attack for no discernible reason at LAS in June. Spent almost the entire summer at home or within close proximity to it. Flew for the first time this week; a 1/2 milligram of Ativan did the trick both ways.
     
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    Party on, Garth.
     
  18. Lhammer28

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    Dr gave me Ativan, i hope it helpls a little.
    Thanks for everyone's support tho, I havent ever said this before, but I cant wait to be home from Vegas and back with my baby!
     
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    Happy Birthday.

    I can understand your anxiety but I am certain you will have a great trip.
     
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    This is almost getting unbearable.... For some reason Jacob has been acting really needy these last couple days & waking up randomly at night, which he hasn't done in months. Its like he knows something. im just about to break down.

    I just needed to get that out
     
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