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I wanna go to Vegas...but not with you...

Discussion in 'Misc. Vegas Chat' started by Electroguy563, Jul 28, 2012.

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  1. Electroguy563

    Electroguy563 Over-Fried Gambler

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    Have you ever known some-one you absolutely do not, care not, and want not to go to Vegas with?

    And if you do how did you go about it? Do you dodge them, lie to them or just flat out tell them you don't care to go with them?

    Just wondering if any of you would care to share any experiences if you had a similar predicament.

    What makes it more difficult is these people are relatives of mine....:rolleyes2:
     
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  2. HoyaHeel

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    Well, our friends and family know we rarely travel with anyone else because we just don't like it and we want to do our own thing. So fortunately this issue doesn't come up with us often. If it's family, you need to be honest but kind. Tell them you're sorry but you really need this get away for you and your SO (or to get away from your life at home, job, with your college buddies - whatever is the truth but also omits that family member....) If you feel like it, you could say you'd be happy to help him/her plan a trip to Vegas for themselves.....another time.

    If you do like this person in general and just want to avoid a Vegas trip, try to arrange something closer to home that you can do together so they don't feel abandoned.
     
  3. MisterJJ

    MisterJJ Low-Roller

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    My wife.

    We go on vacations every year, many times twice. But I usually make at least one trip to Vegas a year and it's been without the wife for many years. It's just not her thing.
     
  4. gigglemonkee

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    The wife and I decided that it is better we take seperate vegas trips. I go 4-6 times a year sometimes more. When we go she freaks out at seeing me lose two hands or betting and winning as gambling is not her thing. We still have our trips to disney world, yosemite, a cruise or anything else for when we want.
     
  5. sco5123

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    For a few of my solo trips, a couple friends have asked to join but I wanted to experience solodom on my trips so that's what I tell them. Bound to be some hurt feelings but at least it was the truth. And everyone seems very accepting.

    But I like these friends so it was probably easier being nice and telling the truth.
     
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    I used to have a close acquaintance who was also a coworker and would go out with every Friday night to our favorite lounge. She would always say we should go to Vegas together. She had never been, but knew I went all the time.

    She was good to be around in a work situation or even going out for a few hours. But to travel with? Never. She was a bit of a whiner, picked arguments with people for no real reason, bragged on what she had, always thought no man was good enough for her.

    So no, I'd always tell her I could NEVER travel with her. She'd get an attitude, but I didn't care. No one messes up my Vegas trips. :nono:
     
  7. thecarve

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    "It's not you, it's me."
     
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  8. Smo

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    In 30 years I have never had anyone I didn't want to go to Vegas with.

    I have friends that snore loud enough to move walls inward.
    Friends with that annoying laugh when she drinks.
    Friends with some kind of funky B/O going on.
    Friends with smelly shoes.
    Friends that wanna see "X" show or go to "X" casino which I don't like.
    etc etc etc.

    It's all how you go about it.
    I'm there to have a good time, on my vacation, with or without friends. No one will change or ruin my vacation in Vegas, even if they are there with me or where I left them at another casino down the strip somewhere.

    There is no 'perfect' friend or family member, but you need to overlook their annoyances and have a great time together. :faint:
     
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    I have a friend who I take to Vegas twice a year. She is unemployed, unmarried, and very overweight. She does four things in Vegas - eat, sleep, plop herself in the nearest chair, and get up to go to the bathroom every 20 minutes or so. She doesn't have money to gamble, but blows through whatever money I give her in a couple of minutes doing max-bet, despite my explaining to her that the money is to keep her busy so I can play, too. I tell her to just do a few lines per spin, but it makes no difference. She won't walk anywhere, doesn't care to see the sights, won't ride on any attractions, and tells me all day how tired she is. No matter what I want to do, she objects, complains, refuses to participate, etc. Her flights cost twice as much as mine, since I live in Oregon and she lives in Pennsylvania. I pay for her separate hotel room, too. Our last trip was for Halloween, and I had to buy all of her costumes and bring them in a third suitcase. She whined about having to wear them and refused to watch the Halloween parade on Fremont Street, which I desperately wanted to see. When the special overhead Fremont Halloween show came on, I wanted to watch and video-record it, but she insisted on returning to the hotel. I was furious. Recently she brought up about going back, and I told her we can go when she has the money to pay my way for a change. She never asked why I said that. Do you think she knows I'm tired of her being such a lump?
     
  10. Electroguy563

    Electroguy563 Over-Fried Gambler

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    Your experiences with your friend is so very similar to my situation. Thanks for sharing. I just feel that my Vegas vacation is so special and I really work so hard just to get away and relax for a week or so. Sometimes I feel guilty and selfish. I just want some time to just be with my wife and do what we want to do without worrying about someone else. We have the rest of the year to do that, lol!
     
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    Rejection

    Electro guy, Don't be afraid to say to your relative that you prefer to go to Vegas alone or with your wife, girlfriend or friend.

    Tell the truth... because people are always caught in lies.
    There is nothing wrong in saying whatever you want to say to them.
    They are adults and already know how to handle rejection. No family
    member will care if you reject that person.
    You don't need an ANCHOR around your neck in Vegas. You don't need to waste your time in Vegas trying to hide from your relative because it will
    really hurt your relative's feeling forever if you do that.
    JUST SAY "NO"!

    My daughter-in-law doesn't like me and one day I invited my adult son, his wife and the two grand-kids. I paid for the air, hotel, etc. for the trip.

    It was horrible what they did to me. I will never forget it. They should have just said, "No thank you... we prefer to go alone to Vegas. I would have backed off and gotten my feelings hurt for a little bit.

    We had two rooms with a door between us. I had the kids stay with me.
    In the morning I was ready to go eat breakfast with them. I stayed in my room to wait for them to finish getting ready.
    A few minutes later.... I opened their door and they were all gone.
    I got the hint loud and clear that I wasn't wanted. I had to eat breakfast by myself. My son told me later that they thought I was sleeping and didn't want to wake me up. LAME EXCUSE!! JERKS!
    We didn't spend the whole time together like I thought we were going to do.
    This happened to me years ago. Even if I ever get mentally challenged I will never forget this negative experience.

    I have had several negative experiences with them.

    This is why I am spending my son's inheritence.

    Electro guy, thank you for reminding me not to leave my money, jewelry, and properties to those ungrateful relatives.
    My own precious son is getting nothing from me.

    Right.... it's me.. not them.lol. Nobody wants to read about my sad experiences. But... this was my experience in my life.
    I need to learn to stay away from toxic relatives. Lucy
     
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    That statement is EXACTLY why I don't want to travel with anyone but my husband. I do NOT WANT to spend my entire vacation with anyone else. Heck, I even head to the spa to escape my husband:evillaugh

    Fortunately, my parents (all 8 of them...), brothers & sisters all understand this, and if we do travel together, we all have LOADS of free time. Dinner together and maybe a couple of other events during the trip. And everyone is happy.

    I think expecting adult children to spend every moment with you is insane. And if you paid for the trip expecting them to do that, that's attempting to control them with money and there are bigger issues involved.....
     
  13. Electroguy563

    Electroguy563 Over-Fried Gambler

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    Yes, I agree. I've done several trips with my relatives in question and I just feel this year I don't care to have them be a part of my trip. Maybe for other future trips?

    I admire your ability to tolerate your friends and have a good time anyway. I just read a TR of a fellow member who put up with his dear but difficult mother-in-law. It was a fun and humorous read and I admire his patience and understanding.

    Thanks for sharing!:wave:
     
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    If you have done other trips with them, then this should be a lot easier for you to get out of - especially if you may be willing to travel with them again in the future.

    It sounds a lot better saying, 'We had so much fun last time, but this trip I really want to......' vs. saying 'oh I don't want to go with you ever again'.
     
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    Electroguy563 Over-Fried Gambler

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    Thank you Lucy, I will do that. And I sincerely hope that your relationship with your Son and his Wife will turn for the better someday.:wave:
     
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    Electroguy563 Over-Fried Gambler

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    Lol!! I like this......:thumbsup:
     
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    Seems like the best times are when I'm alone. After a solo trip, those with friends just seem to remind me of what I'm being restricted from doing and the burdens of "group decisions".
     
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    Electroguy563 Over-Fried Gambler

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    I am seriously considering a solo trip this year. Partly due to my wife not being able to get away from work.

    I still rather go with my wife though. We can do other things during the day otherwise all I tend to do is gamble and lose my bankroll, lol!!
     
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    Just one time, I want to go by myself. No one else. No one elses schedule, no one elses idea of a good time- JUST ME. If I want to go back to the hotel at 4 and take a nap, I can. If I want to go see Jean, Nevada, just to go see Jean, Nevada- I can. No one saying "What the hell you wanna go to Jean, for??" I really don't, but I want to be able to. There is my little rant about who I wanna go with, but back to the original poster, I think we all feel that way. There are people I don't want to go with, but someday, I will go by myself :peace:
     
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    WOW, just read Sams response and the other one right above my first one. Seems I am not alone!!! :nworthy:
     
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