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feb 27-3 kinda sad

Discussion in 'Vegas Trip Reports' started by chef, Mar 4, 2011.

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  1. chef

    chef Resident Buffetologist

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    My Trip Report

    Most of the Vegas TRs in this forum are of an upbeat nature. However, this one is not.
    Before we begin, a little background info - For the past several years, I have accompanied a wheelchair-bound man to Vegas. Once a year, usually in the summer, we do Vegas up and rollicking good times are had.
    Even with his disability (basically he can use one arm), my friend had been able to experience Vegas to the fullest. We're talking 6-hour sessions at the Olympic Gardens, solicitation of casino hookers (that one didn't turn out to well), use of a girl from the phone number on a porn slapper card, tons of blackjack playing, taking the CAT by himself, seeing shows, etc.
    On many of the trips, he would even mock himself by wearing a non-PC shirt that said "Show the Cripple some Nipple". People would look at him and burst out laughing.
    In the small town we live in, he began to earn a reputation as Mr. Vegas, a title that made him proud.
    He's had a tough 2010, losing his job to the economic downturn, his house to foreclosure and had to terminate his caregiver for personal reasons. Additionally, living one's entire life in a wheelchair will age a person. He has learned his 45-year old body is beginning to shut down.
    After such a bad year, we decided to go to Vegas in February instead of waiting until summer. My friend was in desperate need of an uplifting experience and Vegas always had delivered in the past.
    This time, though, it was a different story.
    We arrived Sunday (Feb 27) and took the 108 to the Hilton and checked into a Classic room for the casino rate of $139 total for four nites. It was a larger than the standard rooms, with one of the softest bed I've ever slept on.
    Unfortunately, my friend was not able to enjoy his bed as much as me. At 1:00 am he woke me to say he was in pain and needed to be moved to a different position. I adjusted him and he lasted a couple more hours until the aches in his joints and pain from bed sores were too much.
    To relieve his pain, I put him back in his wheelchair for the rest of the night.
    I almost felt guilty going back to sleep in the comfortable bed while he tried to sleep in his motorized wheelchair.
    That was how it went each evening, he would try to sleep an hour or two, but the pain became too much that he just gave up and stayed in the wheelchair the rest of the time. If it beacme too unbearable, he would head down to casino and play blackjack
    Another problem was that he lost most of the muscle tone in his legs and had difficulty standing up while I moved him from bed to chair and vice versa. Previously, he was at least able to stand on his own feet, but now it was like lifting 200 pounds of dead weight.
    So as not to get too graphic, I will leave out any discussion of difficulties with bodily functions. But, to suffice to say, it was a chore.
    Since his finances were limited, all sex-related endeavours were out of the question. He did bring $1,200 to gamble on, but lost it all by Wednesday night.
    With how bad his health was, he wasn't all that concerned with going through his bank roll. It was almost like he has given up on life.
    Probably, the saddest moment came at the Wynn casino. After coming out from the buffet, he wheeled over to where the hallway overlooks the pool entrance and starting crying.
    I took me a second and then I realized what he was crying about. Unless something miraculous happens healthwise, he would never be able to belly up to the outdoor table games at the pool.
    He loved to sit there playing the green chips, watching the scenery and soaking up the warmth and sun. The pit bosses and dealers treated him like a king, something he craved. He was somebody at the Wynn and now that was being taken away.
    A regular person would have a hard time understanding my friend's excitement over entering the Wynn pool area and making the walk to the table games. There was a sense of triumph to it and certainly one of the high points of his life.
    The tables game weren't due to open for a couple more weeks and my friend knew how critical time can be, as his day are most likely numbered, as well.
    With the emotional state my friend was in, he asked that I give his final regards to his favorite Wynn dealer, Cyndy. He wanted to do it, but knew he would break down in front of her and the patrons at her BJ table.
    Again, he knew he would never see her again and it hurt.
    As much as we tried to make this trip like all the others, we couldn't. The magic was gone.
    Sure, it was great to get away from what had been troubling him back on the home front, but Vegas could no longer provide the relief he was looking for.
    The glitz and glitter of the casinos were no match for the despondency he was feeling.
     
  2. DonD

    DonD Super Moderator

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    Chef, through your trip reports, I feel like I've known your friend for years. My heart goes out to him and to YOU. You are truly a great friend of his. I will never forget his T-shirt that you talk about. I smile every time I think of it. :nworthy:
     
  3. BigRoss71

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    That is really upsetting to read, Chef. I already knew you had to be an amazing friend to do what you do every trip. I hope at the very least, you two can make a summer trip so he can play at the wynn pool. But it doesn't look optimistic from what you say. You both deserve a great trip.
     
  4. AGoalStopper007

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    I raise my glass and say cheers to your friend. It sounds like he is someone who didn't let his disability get in the way of life. And I say cheers to you, Chef, for being such a great friend right back to him. I wish you and your firend only the best.
     
  5. thecarve

    thecarve Misanthrope

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    My heart just aches, chef. I’m glad that you and he were able to share so many good times in Vegas, though. You are truly a great friend.
     
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    Sorry to hear where your friend is at, I can't even imagine that situation. Kudos to you once again for helping him get out and about. I hope he gets some good news for a change, sounds like he could really use it.
     
  7. denluvslv

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    Chef, my heart goes out to you and your friend. Please let him know that there are alot of people thinking about him today. I sincerely hope you both will be able to return to Las Vegas soon.
     
  8. mjamesp

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    I can relate to some of this. About 10 years ago our family took it's annual summer Vegas trip knowing it was vary likely our fathers last trip. He was struggling with the affects from chemo trying to fight off melanoma. To make things worse he had been living with diabetes for 25 years. Between the diabetes and the chemo he lost a foot to disease and was still suffering with unhealed radiation burns. The trip required lots of patience on all of our parts (mostly his). I'm still very glad we went through with the trip. There's a Green Binions chip from this trip on top of his urn in the grave.

    Thank you for your story. It brought memories back for me.
     
  9. sulobo

    sulobo Low-Roller

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    Chef I will be honest with you I am a 59 yo man and this story brought tears to my eyes . You have got to be the best friend a person can have. Your reward is in heaven.
    Your friend will never forget what you have done for him . He will always be indebted in a special way.
    I wish there was something we all could do to help him. Sometimes we feel so helpless when you see someone suffer like this. Emotionally and physically .
    Thanks for sharing this with us . Yes it is sad but remember we can offer our prayers for his comfort . Thank you for showing us the true meaning of a "FRIEND".
    Please keep us posted and stay in touch with us through the board.
     
  10. doitforthepeople

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    Wow, this really puts things in perspective. Thoughts go out to you and your friend.
     
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    Chef, what a great human being and friend you are. I have always loved to read about you and your friends adventures and have admired how devoted you are to him. This report, was difficult to read since many of us feel we know him through your trip reports. My heart goes out to him and hope he finds peace within himself. I know how much your friendship has meant to him. Thank you for sharing this part of your life with us.
     
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    I can only echo what other people have already said. I feel like your friend is "one of us" after all your reports about him and your trips to Vegas. So sorry that was a rough trip. You are truly a hero for being so kind to your friend.
     
  13. LolaDoggie

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    Chef, first of all, you've been a good friend to this guy. I'm very sorry to hear of his deteriorating condition. From past trip reports, I know you guys always had a good time. And those good times in Vegas carried him through his day to day life. I will keep your friend in my prayers.
     
  14. Blonde_4_ever

    Blonde_4_ever "The Welfare Queen of Windsor"

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    What a tragic story.
    And what a kind and honourable person YOU are....
     
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    WOW I'm in tears , too
    TY for sharing such private moments with your friend
    I'm sorry his pain and discomfort was not alleviated by Vegas and all she has to offer for him this trip , but am glad he did get to go with a very trusted and respectful friend I hope he will be able to do one last fina hurrah in the summer weather and be able to get some of that magic in him again
    kudo's to you for your patience , kindness and respect for who he is not what he was and being there for him :nworthy::blowkiss::kiss:
     
  16. dean_1492

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    Chef, you are a man of honor.
     
  17. RockyBalboa

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    Chef,

    I'd like to echo the thoughts of others and say that you are a truly great friend and reading that report really dug into me. I can imagine the thoughts of your friend and it saddens me to think what he must be thinking.

    I wish him the best - hopefully there is a chance for him to rebound - but I can guarantee you that he knows how great of a friend you are.

    Best of luck to your friend.
     
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    Chef, you are truly a great friend. I always enjoyed your trip reports and wish your friend the very best. Thanks for sharing.
     
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    Bless you Chef.
     
  20. chef

    chef Resident Buffetologist

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    Thanks everyone for all the kinds words.
    Several years ago, when my friend first proposed the idea of going to Vegas with me, I was somewhat reluctant. It seemed like it would be a real chore.
    But, I ended up being blessed by the experience and discovered that being of service is the best work of life one can do.
    Believe me, I got just as much out of these trips as he did.
     
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