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Divorced,Jobless, Broke, Then.... Death.

Discussion in 'Non-Vegas Chat' started by Joe Strummer, Sep 4, 2013.

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  1. Joe Strummer

    Joe Strummer VIP Whale

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    This was the ending to a friend's life -
    A friend since 2nd grade !
    .
    Played Little League together -
    HS Football + Baseball
    College Football
    Men's Softball for years + years.
    .
    He gets married
    ( went to his wedding )+ moves away to her area.
    I hadn't seen him in 15 - 20 years.
    .
    We find out he went through a REAL UGLY divorce.
    Had 3 kids -- moved a mile away, in a one room apartment -
    so he could be close to his kids.
    Then, loses his sales job which he had for years -
    worked part time at something else.
    .
    Another buddy of mine - found his number and called him
    3 months ago.
    My buddy said, "The last thing he said to me was...'I love you, man."
    ** In hindsight -- this was chilling ! ***
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    Well, we travelled to his funeral --
    And his wife was disrepectful about him.
    Even the priest ( she hired ) gave said comments I didn't like !
    *
    We find out a story about our deceased friend.
    He cared for a widow up the block since he was a kid.
    Errands, lawn mowing, house painting,etc.
    He tells the widow - "I'm married and moving "
    She sells her house + moves nearby him.
    He continues to help her until she dies.
    He gets an inheritance from her.
    7 days after he inherits -- his wife serves divorce papers.
    She got ALL OF HIS INHERITANCE.
    I don't know how ? - at this time -
    But she was very smart + controlling.
    It was a $400,000 inheritance.
    And he died broke and couldn't afford his asthma meds.
    There were no meds found in his apartment.
    We think he died of an asthma attack.
    *
    Thank god his sister was at the funeral -
    cos she was the only one saying nice things about him !
    The priest tried to stop her from reading some notes she
    wrote down !....it was unbelieveably bad !
    *
    I said to my wife......"Let's don't ever let that happen to us."
    >
    Thanks -
    I just needed to vent.
     
  2. shifter

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    sad, very sad.
     
  3. Keyser Soze

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    Women are the rake.
     
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    Women are the coolers in life. :evillaugh
     
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    That is awful. I am a true believer in karma however, so she will get hers sooner or later.
     
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    This all stems from the person he married.

    People seem to believe that they HAVE to get married an often marry the wrong person.

    If they had stayed single, they would have been a lot happier.
     
  7. shifter

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    the thing is, people are always changing. nobody stays the same for 10, 20, 30 years, etc. the person you marry is not the same person you're married to after that much time in the same way that you are not the same person you were that long ago.

    oftentimes someone may not have married the "wrong person", but they become the wrong person for them many years down the road. that's why you see so many people getting divorced after 15, 20, 30+ years. you'd figure that if they made it work for that long, they should be able to continue to make it work, but that's because the two people they are today aren't the same two people who originally got married.

    it takes a lot of dedication and commitment to stay close together and connected through all the ups and down in life over so many years and most people lose that connection and drift apart. I've yet to see a divorce that was just one person's fault apart from fraud on the part of one side that was only in it for the money from the beginning, etc.
     
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    Well said
     
  9. Joe

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    A very rational, non emotional response.:thumbsup:
     
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  10. Keyser Soze

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    Before I married, I sat down with my bride, looked her in the eyes and said.....

    "I drink every day, I play golf 3-4 times per week, and I gamble every chance I get. I will do the same after we marry. If this is going to be a problem, we should not get married."

    Yesterday, we celebrated our 19th wedding anniversary. I played golf in the morning with buddies. Then sat at the bar and drank for 2 hours. Went home, showered, and took my wife to dinner, then went to the casino.

    19 years later, I still drink, golf, gamble.
     
  11. Joe Strummer

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    Honesty....is the best policy.
    ( but insanity is a better defense ! )
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    The only thing I told my wife before we decided
    to get married ---
    "Honey, Vegas, is going to continue....
    I need my Vegas !....are you okay with that ?"
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    We got married in Vegas - seven yrs ago this month !:thumbsup:
     
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    Sad story but you don't know what went on in his marriage if you haven't been in touch the last so many years. It is so easy to judge the woman but who knows what they went through.

    I could never imagine taking all my husband's money and he knows i never would but i have seen it happen.

    The person i am thinking about, his wife left him with nothing, not even a salt & pepper shaker. She took every last thing she could, did some other stuff and he committed suicide. Everyone blamed her, i didn't. I am sure she was a part of it but.......

    He was an alcoholic who gambled but also was a major drug user and heavy into debt. He went on a major binge one weekend and no one could find him, he depleted their savings to do so.

    So while i don't condone the things she did to him we don't know the full extent of all she had to put up with. People still hate her to this day, because they want to blame her for him killing himself, not his own demons that played a major part.
     
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    If I,or a Jersey Girl, was your bride to be..

    I would have said "OK ,but just so you know ,I'm addicted to to the Home Shopping Network,I use illegal drugs and I fool around with other guys".
     
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  14. Vagabond

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    After reading the first post, this is why I will always remain single.
     
  15. Turtleman

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    Amen! And I thought I got screwed from my divorce. I'll likely have bad dreams tonight! Thanks (I think) for sharing.
     
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    separated a year now & was married for 4.
    Met 13 years ago
    2 kids (b&g)

    A story like this is extremely sad and it's a shame these things happen but as mentioned previously its mainly because the people you were are not the people you are.

    The stress of this last year due to thoughts of not seeing my kids, repossession of my home etc etc nearly got the better of me but time heals all and I'm delighted to say that myself and my ex are getting along, share custody of our kids 50/50, have our home rented out (paying the mortgage) and at 3pm tomorrow we have our second and possibly last mediation session to effectively form the basis of our legal separation (4 years to divorce in Ireland)

    I needed to write this down to realise how lucky I was for it to turn out this way compared to the OP's story.

    my heart goes out to anyone involved in a break up after a long period of time together.

    As another poster mentioned - nobody will know what exactly happened and its unfair to judge so having gone through this I now hold the opinion that its best not to drag up the past, but try to concentrate on the future and hopefully both parties find what they are looking for.

    Unfortunately this is not possible for the OP's old friend which saddens me:(:(
     
  17. Someone

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    yea, but gambling, golf and drinking are not illegal, spending your money on useless crap or cheating :poke:

    and hey guys lets not pick on women here there are plenty of worthless guys out there screwing things up for the rest of us as well

    women are great as long as you find the one that has the insanity that matches your craziness :wave:
     
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    ^^ THIS ^^ :nworthy:
     
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