I have often heard it said that old women are cranky, cantankerous and selfish. As I approach this designation I realize this is an unfair over generalization. When we are born, we are these sweet, malleable creatures. We are taught that we are born to please. In order to be considered "good" we must be "people pleasers". It starts with our parents, then moves on to our teachers, our boyfriends, our husbands, our children, our employers. Essentially it never ends. Unless YOU make it end! I am not advocating abdicating your current life, but there comes a point in almost every woman's life when she goes. "When is it MY TURN? When do I get to please myself?" Believe me, unless you get firm and emphatic about what you want...it will NEVER happen. You need stop, take a breath, and reevaluate your life. What do you want the final chapters of your life to consist of? One of the most valuable pieces of advice I ever received was this; The thing you should be doing in life, is the thing you would do even if no one paid you to do it! There are no truer words. What is your passion? What excites you? You need to figure that out and work it into your life...NOW. I have come to realize that there were many. many things that I was doing not because I wanted to do them, but because "somebody else" wanted me to do them. My feelings about the matter were never taken into consideration. As you make changes in your life I guarantee there will be people who will talk about you badly. They will say that you have "changed", that you are "selfish." But maybe we need to take another look at that word. Maybe being selfish is exactly what we need. We need to take care of ourselves at this point in time. If you don't take care of yourself, nobody else will! Like everyone else, I am a "work in progress". I have studied myself and found the things I enjoy. I enjoy my family. I enjoy communicating with people. I enjoy my club. I enjoy my job. I enjoy writing. I enjoy travel. I enjoy Vegas. I enjoy my website. I am going to do my best to keep all the balls in the air for as long as I can and not allow anyone to take away one of the things I love because they don't see the value of it. I am not going down without a fight!